Mark and Michelle

My name is Mark, and I want to thank my wife Michelle for helping me turn a bad time in my life into a positive. Like many new parents, Michelle and I couldn’t wait for the birth of our baby. But after a long labour, Michelle had an emergency C-section. I had a panic attack, convinced both my wife and baby were going to die. Michelle suffered badly from postnatal depression, and I gave up work to care for my family full-time. But rather than making life better, things got worse. I just wanted Michelle to get better, but since I didn’t talk to my friends, I started feeling isolated and guilty – and I turned to drink to block things out. After six years of suffering in silence, I had a breakdown.

“With her help I realised that it could happen to everyone.”

I was put on medication and paid for counselling. Michelle supported me as I learned about mindfulness and mental wellbeing. With her help I realised that it could happen to everyone, and now have positive coping skills in place, rather
than turning to drink.


I’ve founded a non-profit group ‘Fathers Reaching Out’, letting people know perinatal mental health issues can affect fathers too, and now I focus on raising awareness and aim to change policies to support the whole family. From a bad time in my life, with Michelle’s help I’ve turned it into a positive. One piece of advice we learnt together: “The quicker the help, the quicker the recovery”.

If you are struggling our charity partners run support services that may be able to help. CALM offer a helpline for men, so if like Mark so you are struggling they are there for you. Find out more.

For more stories of support see our celebrate support page.

Need help?

Click on the button below if you need urgent support for yourself or someone you know